Saturday, July 4, 2015

Handle with care - Preservation from start to finish





Fabric Care

Preservation started the moment I brought home my fabrics.

In order to avoid leaving skin oils on my fabrics and gown, I washed my hands and forearms before working with this project, and in the middle of sessions if I noticed my hands getting sweaty or if I touched my face.  I made sure everyone else washed their hands, too.  It was a little obsessive, yes.  Some sources I read say you need liquid gloves, or white gloves to avoid this, and maybe with non-polyester fabrics you do need to be this careful.  But I was on a budget, and had other ways of minimizing oils.  I didn't have any problems with touching and handling leading to yellowed spots that I could see.  I also washed my dress after wearing it before preserving it to be safe for the long-term, since the dress and I did have fun on our wedding day!

Handling fabrics and exposure to elements (such as dirt, sunlight, and cats) can age and cause discoloration on fabrics.  I made sure to handle my fabrics very carefully from start to finish, always ensuring they touched only clean surfaces and hands once they had been pre-treated with a Woolite hand-washing in my very clean bathtub.  No food or drink besides water was allowed in the sewing room for a full year.  I think I only broke my rule once by accident, and quickly realized and scooted right out of there.

I also made sure to keep sunlight off of the fabrics and gown to avoid yellowing, since I knew I'd be working on them for a long time (I didn't expect a full year at the outset, but hey, it worked).  I used a muslin practice dress cut down the back to wrap over the bodice in progress.  Then when the skirt was added and it was too big to use what extra fabrics I had to keep covering it on Glinda, I resorted to hanging dark curtains over the blinds.  That gave extra protection from sunlight as well as the heat it adds to the upstairs room in our Florida house.  When there was a long period when I wasn't working on the gown, I put everything in the preservation box and brought it downstairs to a dark room.



I vacuumed in there pretty regularly and generally tried to keep the cat out, especially when the skirt was exposed if I left it uncovered overnight while in the middle of something.  She's pretty innocent, but I didn't want to have her calico hairs showing up on my gown after all that work.  And definitely not any claw marks if she did decide to experiment!  Rather than closing the room door, I used the huge gown preservation box to block the doorway but allow air to continue circulating into the room.

I also didn't leave pins in the fabrics, at least not those that would be used in the actual gown since they caused tiny rust spots after a few months.

Oh, and another thing.  White fabrics + needles + hands = blood spots.  I was so careful to pull my hands away when I pricked myself!  I did end up with a tiny spot somewhere on the dress (I'm not telling where), but overall I was able to stop the bleeding from minor pricks and continue working pretty quickly, and avoided making any mess.


Gown Cleaning and Preservation

Although I didn't use it as much before the wedding as I thought I would, I did use a preservation kit to protect my gown and materials over time during sewing and for transport when I took it to my mom's house for a couple of work days when I needed extra hands.

I had decided not to use a dry-cleaner unless my dress got very dirty, and it looked like I was going to be able to stick with that plan.  So about two weeks after the wedding, I finally pulled the gown of of its box, which it had traveled in to the wedding, and washed it.  I dunked the hem into the bathtub with Woolite, just like I'd done when pre-treating it.  But this time, I had dirt around the hem, which I scrubbed off using a toothbrush, Shout stain-treating spray, and a couple hours on my knees.  I scrubbed the fashion outer fabric, the two mirror organza layers under that, and the lining layer on the innermost part of the skirt.  I also scrubbed one little grease spot on the skirt from our wedding day mishap with the car.  After that, I dunked the whole gown in and out a few times and let it soak for a bit to wash it, and let the dirty water out to run fresh water for a few rinsing dunks.  Then I turned on the shower and rinsed some more!  I thought that much rinsing was important because detergents generally continue collecting dirt, including detergent that remains in fabrics, so I wanted to get all of that out before storage.  I also washed the petticoat in the same way, but less scrubbing since the tulle was delicate, being pretty old.  I hung both up to air dry, using a drying rack to support the heavy skirt.

Toothbrush did the trick nicely!  It took time and a lot of Shout, but worked well.
Before hanging, I pressed some water out onto towels.



The other bit of cleaning I had to do was to clean the sash that had gotten dirty before the wedding.  Fun story: the forecast for our wedding went from rain to scattered storms to thunderstorms to severe thunderstorms.  As I put on my gown on our wedding day, those were entering our area and announced themselves with thunder.  Getting from the cabin where we got dressed to the first look location was an adventure.  My aunt helped me get my whole big white fluffy self into the van to take me there, and as we went, it looked like a small bridge we needed to cross was flooded over!  Fortunately, it was just covered with water that wasn't clearing quickly enough and visually blended in with the lake it went over, and we were able to drive across it.  We got to the first look spot, got one good shot while also getting poured on, and decided to go somewhere with more cover.  As we got out at our new location, we found that the tail end of my sash had been caught in the rolling van door, and had black, chunky grease on it.  We tried to wash it out, but nothing helped.  Not the Tide To Go stick I bought for this kind of thing, not dish soap with degreaser, not scrubbing...  I kept cool.  I was determined to roll with it.  We were able to tuck the dirty end of the sash up into the waistband so that I ended up with a three-looped, one-tailed bow.  It worked, actually.  Nobody knew if I didn't tell them!  Still, I thought this might be something I'd need a dry-cleaner for--at least it'd be cheaper than the whole gown.

Poor thing, this is how it looked after scrubbing it at the wedding.  The spots were more black than they look in the photo.

Anyway, this poor sash got some special treatment when I was finally able to face it after the wedding.  I doubted if even a dry-cleaner could save it and was considering remaking the darn thing just to have a complete and clean dress in my gown box.  But fortunately--I wish we'd had this on the wedding day!--Shout and a few scrub and soak sessions with a toothbrush got all the junk out of it.  I let that air dry as well, and was able to package it up nice and clean.

Preserving the veil was a little tricky, because it got scrunched even before the wedding since I finished it well in advance.  (That was part of why I ended up making a second layer, actually.)  This time I used tissue up under the top part of it to try to prevent the gathers at the comb from settling into folds, but I have a feeling it's going to lose some body no matter what, unless I had somewhere to hang it up.  (I don't.  I don't even have enough space to keep the big gown box in our house.  Even if we had a basement or accessible attic, I couldn't put it there because of humidity or heat.  Fortunately my mom has my old bedroom where it can go.)  I'm supposing that if it ever has another opportunity for use that we could lay it out or hang it up in a way that could help fluff it back out.

To preserve a gown you have to tuck materials into
the folds of the fabric and avoid creases.  Also avoid cat hair on the bed
with a clean bedsheet.
I got this "archival quality" preservation kit on Ebay for $40 and followed the instructions in this video.
The box included acid-free tissue paper, a bust shape to put in the dress, a viewing window, and a shipping box to put the preservation box in.  I also bought unbleached muslin to line the box with based on my research, and also saved silica gel packets to put into the box outside of the wrappings to keep it drier.

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

DIY all the way - Other ways we saved on our wedding

Note: photos are by Heather Danielle Photography, 2015

Our wedding had a lot more DIY than just the dress.  We had a budget of $5,000 that we were shooting for, and in the end, we figured out that with everything but the rings, we spend only $3,500!  Here are some of the things we saved on by doing them ourselves!

Makeup and hair: For my makeup, I learned techniques through videos online and visits to Sephora.  I mostly bought from Walmart, but did cave and get a small tube of Porefessional to smooth my pores, Aqua Eyes waterproof eyeliner because I expected to cry happy tears, Urban Decay's finishing spray in a tester size to keep things set in the summer heat (and again, tears), and NARS Palomino for contouring--all from Sephora.  I got my brushes at Walmart on the cheap, and I like Almay's long-wear TLC foundation from there since I find that it's the only thing that doesn't melt off my face in the summer.  Considering that I already owned a lot of the things I needed, I figure I spent less than $100 on makeup supplies that I've used much more than just at the wedding.  My bridesmaids (my sisters) also did their own makeup, since they are both into that.

We also spent some time figuring out hairdos we liked and how to do them for each other.  My mom helped me do some of the fancier parts of my basic sock bun to make it a little dressier.  I got three sizes of "sock" on Ebay from China for less than a dollar to test out different sizes, and ended up going with the smallest.  Oh, and I also cut my husband's hair at home, so we didn't even pay for his beauty prep!

My lovely bridesmaids with our DIY hair, nails, makeup, and bouquets.
I did get salon nails as a gift from my sister--my first mani and pedi!
Our cake insert:  Our inspiration cake had this awesome foil insert and was really simple overall, with some flowers as accents.  I don't know where you get a foil insert, but after a lot of thinking I figured I could make one reasonably affordably.  I got a foam disc at the craft store and papier-mache'd it, allowing lots of time to dry between layers to avoid molding from the inside out later.  Then I shellacked it with Elmer's Glue-All.

Once the form was made, I got copper foil for metal leafing projects, and followed the instructions in the kit and from online videos to foil the whole top and sides and some of the bottom (the foil is limited supply so I didn't want to be wasteful since the bottom would never be seen by guests).  Instead of the fancy glue they tell you to use, I used a spray adhesive from Walmart, and it worked well.  I did buy the special metal leaf coating to seal it from tarnishing and wear.  For some reason, I still had tarnish show up after coating it, so I re-foiled some areas quite a few times before I minimized that.  I had to cover the insert so only the area where spray glue was needed showed, and leafed that.  In the end, some tarnish still showed, but hey, it adds character.  It was supposed to be an imperfect texture, so the shadows hid any small tarnished areas.  Like everything else, it took much longer than expected, but it looked great in the cake!  I think it's currently in my mom's freezer under the top layer of our cake, waiting for our first anniversary.

I sent the insert to the baker a week before it was needed.  To finish the look off off once it arrived, I made sure to save some flowers from the arrangements to put on the cake, and the topper was a gift.  Since all the decorations were done ourselves, the cake was basically the base price.  And it was delicious!  We splurged a little for strawberry filling and it was really yummy!  (I'd say as good as Publix cake, which was what I was aiming for!)

Can you tell whether this is the inspiration cake or our cake?
It's ours!
The entertainment:  Rather than doing a cocktail hour when we aren't that into drinking, we decided to take advantage of the pretty location and nice midwestern summer weather by doing a lawn game hour.  (In case of rain we supplied indoor games, too.)  We asked family to bring things like bocce ball, croquet, and others, and we supplied cornhole and a coin toss game.  We also took advantage of our venue's fire pit and brought s'more supplies for the end of the evening!

Flowers for me,
fish for him.
My husband and I had received a table saw for Christmas and had hardboard laying around the garage, so we were able to make the cornhole and coin toss games ourselves.  It took some teamwork to get the huge piece of hardboard cut down to the right size.  We found that when we weren't very careful, the board could warp or twist and cause a nick in the edge of an otherwise good cut right at the end.  We had enough to get around that problem, though.  We used furring strips to create the base and feet, and made the feet detachable for traveling to the wedding, using long screws and wing nuts.  I used a box cutter to cut the circle out, then painted it with primer and then outdoor house paint we had lying around.

I also designed our own monogram and made a stencil from that by printing it out at an enlarged size and using an Exacto knife to cut it out of posterboard, then spray painting through it.  That left some fuzzy lines, so I went over the edges with a paintbrush to clean that up.  I also made the cornhole bags out of duck cloth and birdseed, following directions like these.  We made the coin toss game from scrap wood in the garage and a can we were going to recycle... easy peasy.

We also didn't hire a DJ since our family members aren't big dancers.  Instead I put a lot of work (more than was probably needed) into creating the perfect playlist of songs that represented me and my husband and would entertain our family for hours.  I created a pre-ceremony seating playlist of classical guitar music, one with the processional and recessional songs (beautiful classical guitar Grow Old with Me by Lennon for our entrance, then Will You Go with Me by Josh Turner for our exit).  Then there was a playlist for the game hour/after dinner fun, one for the father-daughter dance (My Wish by Rascall Flatts) and first dance (Rainbow Connection by Sarah McLaughlin), and a playlist for dinner.  My sister managed the iPod and little portable sound system, which we had bought for about $75 on Amazon, and it included a cordless mic that my cousin used when we needed announcements made.

We had firefly jars because our engagement night
was the first time we each saw them in Florida since coming from the midwest!


Table decorations:  We made all the firefly jars by learning to solder and replacing the bulky battery packs with attachments for 9-volt batteries that would fit under the lids.  I got moss from Hobby Lobby, and we ordered the little lights online.  We looked for so long for cheap lights that would twinkle, but those were out of the price range when we were expecting possibly 10 tables each needing a firefly jar.

My mom and I made the favors by wrapping tea lights from Ikea in tulle and tying on tags with ribbon.  I made the flower vases by spray painting jars that were sitting around with copper paint to fit our rose gold theme (matching our rings).  My grandpa made the peg games with his woodworking talents.

The flowers and bouquets:  I used Blooms by the Box to order less than $200 worth of flowers, and got some supplies cheaper with another place.  We spent a few hours putting together our bouquets, corsages, boutonnieres, and table settings the night before, with some last-minute parts on the wedding day.   Blooms by the Box was great to work with, and things arrived in lovely shape.

We used two sizes of roses and two sizes of carnations, plus coffee greens and baby's breath.
We ended up needing more greens and got extra leather leaf at a nearby florist.
Other cost-savers:  I made the program-fans at home with wood sticks for handles and bubbles tied on with ribbon.  I also made the escort cards and table numbers, and used a Groupon to buy a photo book of our engagement pictures to serve as a guest book.  The groom's suit was bought on sale with an added discount, the groomsman's tie was from Beall's Outlet, and the bridesmaids' dresses were on clearance at $50 each, plus they each have worn them for other things.  (Honest!  Before the wedding even happened, they each wanted to wear them.)  We also used a package deal to travel (car, flights, and hotel), since our wedding was out-of-state for us in order to be closer to where our families live.  Our photographer Heather Danielle wasn't one of those pricey $2,000-minimum types.  We were able to have her for just the part of the day we needed, and just get our photos with printing rights but not all the trappings we didn't need, so she was less than half of most photographers while offering quality images.  (She clearly gave us some great stuff as you can see!)  Oh, and did I mention our sweet little venue only cost $150 for the run of the place, plus reasonably-priced meals for everyone?  That's Pine Lake Trout Club in Chagrin Falls, Ohio.  Initially we thought the meals would add up much more, so that's part of why we were so careful with costs, but in the end half our guest list declined, so that did make a big difference in our projected and actual costs.


Basically everything in this wedding had our hands on it.  I not only knew my dress inside-out, but was involved in thinking through the other details as well.  And you haven't even seen the "Day Of" book I made to keep things going smoothly as we did final prep and went through the wedding day!

After the wedding, my sister asked if I'd plan her wedding.  I said probably not, I was pretty planned out!  But I am proud that I was able to organize all that and help it go relatively smoothly.  There were bumps here and there, but overall, it was a memorable and beautiful day.  I'm so happy that our guests thought it was very special and enjoyable, too!


While we did save a lot of money on our wedding, far from being "cheap," I think that here you can see how much real work and care went into creating that day over a long period of time.  Our wedding was filled with the languages of love my husband and I share--spending time together, thoughtful gestures of work and small meaningful gifts, and playing together.  Money is something we save as a couple, thinking of our future family, but love is something we give in these ways.


Saturday, June 27, 2015

Wearing the gown!

Our Wedding Day - June 27th, 2015

All photos are by Heather Danielle Photography, 2015









Monday, June 1, 2015

Break it down - Costs of sewing my own gown

The cost advantage of making my own gown was one of several reasons I did this, so out of curiosity and to be responsible with spending on the wedding overall, I kept my receipts and tracked the cost. These prices include sales and coupons I used (typically 40-50% off at Jo-Ann).

Gown materials = $134.32

$39.96 taffeta for outer layer (4 yds)
$19.96 dotted silk for waistband (4 yds)
$1.99 ribbon (for straps, which I decided not to use
$3.29 thread
$19.96 organza for skirt under-layers (4 yds)
$24.95 lining material (5 yds)
$8.98 boning
$11.94 muslin
$3.29 zipper
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$134.32

Veil materials = $8.65

$2.08 seed beads (2 boxes)
$2.57 monofilament transparent thread
$4 tulle (4 yds)
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$8.65

Sewing supplies I'll be able to use again = $53.36

$3.49 corner turner
$2.49 tracing wheel
$2.57 tracing paper
$3.29 glass head silk pins
$5.99 pressing cloth for ironing
$4.29 fine needles
$5.99 clear wide ruler
$19.99 replacement bobbin case (damaged in previous project and was causing birds nests)
$2.27 more needles
$2.99 muslin to cover sewing table (for cleanliness and to avoid rough edges)
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$53.36

Total cost = $196.33 (give or take 100 hours of work)

The verdict: sewing my own gown was way cheaper than buying, even a used gown at a discount couldn't have competed.  The best prices I saw on gowns I was interested in were at least $300-400 at the very lowest, and they weren't really what I was looking for.  Besides that, I would have had to have it tailored (deconstructing a gown myself to tailor it would have been as much work as making one and less fun) and I probably would have added pockets myself, adding more cost and work. Under $200 for just the gown I wanted was definitely the way to go.